Comments on: Fear of biggifying

By: James | Dancing Geek

James | Dancing Geek — Sat, 04 Apr 2009 04:43:05 +0000

@Mike – I could apologise for making you feel that you had implied ingratitude, but at some point it goes beyond politeness and into insanity. Safe to say, we both think each other is awesome so I’m betting you get that!

I definitely do have a great gang of people nowadays, I have a bunch of different support forums for different things and I can think of where there are a few wholes (e.g. dance) but mostly it’s pretty darn good. Thanks for the reminder.

@Urban Panther – ‘Be yourself’ is such an simple concept, but so very hard to know how to do. However, with the post I’ve just written I feel like I have just graduated from personal development college (or written my thesis for my Alternative MA?) and can now see how that would work. I can actually visualise that process, and that is a BIG deal.

After that it’s, well, it’s not easy because that’s kind of the point, but it’s not a chore – because I can see how this life thing might work and it’s pretty amazing!

By: Urban Panther

Urban Panther — Fri, 03 Apr 2009 22:09:37 +0000

In my younger years (god, that makes me sound ancient), I was ridiculed, mocked, shunned, (fill in horrible actions by other people) because I walked to the beat of my own drum. Then I started to find people, who while not necessarily played the drum, played other instruments in tune and rythm with mine. So, you are absolutely correct in your conclusion. Find yourself a tribe of like minded souls. And you do that, actually, by being you. The real you. The tribe will find you. Trust me! Urban Panther’s last blog post..Conversations

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Fri, 03 Apr 2009 20:58:26 +0000

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By: Mike Stankavich

Mike Stankavich — Fri, 03 Apr 2009 05:39:00 +0000

Oh sorry didn’t mean to imply any ingratitude, not at all, my intent was to convey that there are already those who will support rather than ostracize. I do hope you find some like minded folk in the dance world. And I believe that over time you will.

By: James | Dancing Geek

James | Dancing Geek — Fri, 03 Apr 2009 03:05:22 +0000

@Joely – some kids should never have to go to school, or we should have a school just for kids that do well, not to groom them but just so they don’t learn to hate themselves for it.

@Mike – Thank you!

I don’t want to seem ungrateful or to not acknowledge the fantastic people I do know now. Still, there is a connection that I make with the people I dance with that is entirely different, and I am still searching for that physical connection with my tribe as well. It is one of the ironies that I am someone who communicates so much through my body and yet I am drawn to connect through the internet!

By: Mike Stankavich

Mike Stankavich — Thu, 02 Apr 2009 19:24:45 +0000

James, let me point out one thing that's different between now and those bad times at school (by the way I remember those days, bright but socially inept is a BAD combo). You have already built a tribe from this blog, your twitter conversations, and your mastermind crew. We aren't necessarily dancers, but we're a tribe that values development and growth over conformity and childish dominance games. I think that I can speak for most of us when I say "We've got your back." Go out there and SHINE! Mike Stankavich’s last blog post..Blog suffers near-death experience

By: Joely Black

Joely Black — Thu, 02 Apr 2009 19:11:16 +0000

Yes, I have the same fundamental fear. We seem to be thinking the same thoughts today! Joely Black’s last blog post..Thoughts on a theme of fear